So first off, I want to thank all who voted in my poll on my twitter to help me to decide which blog post to write first! I love making content that I know people want to read, so this is definitely an easy way to do that and I will be doing more polls like that in the future, so be sure to follow my twitter if you aren’t already!!
Secondly, I want to say that I just came in from seeing a movie (The Bye Bye Man – very scary btw) with friends and I sat down on my bed and honestly just wanted to sit and play The Sims 4, even though I felt guilty for not being totally eager to write this post (I am excited to share this, don’t get me wrong, but I am pooped) and then I noticed that my game needed to be updated and I’d be without the game for at least a couple hours while it updated. So… God, thank you for intervening and making it to where I would write this post tonight and not play Sims… haha. God definitely has a sense of humor.
So to start of this post, I should give you a preface. Do you remember in middle school when they hired speakers to come speak to the school about abstinence and we all signed a pledge to abstain from sex until marriage? I assume this is a thing that all school districts do. Well of course we all signed the pledge and mostly forgot about it, I know I did. For a while, I was unsure about waiting for marriage. I knew I wanted my first time to be with someone that I loved, but I wasn’t totally sold on waiting for marriage. But as my faith grew, which is another story in itself (that story will be up soon), I leaned more and more toward saving sex for marriage. But when I made this promise to myself and God, I noticed that I don’t really know or even know of anyone else who shares that same value with me or at least know of anyone who speaks out about waiting for marriage. I guess in today’s standards it’s not considered “cool”. But I thought it would be a good thing to write this post because when I was undecided and even now when I’m 100% sure, I needed/wanted someone else who wasn’t afraid to speak out and say “Hey, I’m waiting for my husband/wife too! It’s totally cool and you’re not alone.” and that’s what I want this post to be. I want you to know that you are not alone, there are more people waiting than you think, and that you shouldn’t be embarrassed about your decision. I know that waiting is hard and you will probably lose some people because of this choice, but I also know that waiting for your spouse will be so worth it.
I don’t mean I look down upon anyone who doesn’t share this value with me at all. I was even born out of wedlock and my parents didn’t get married until I was four years old. But I know that this is the right decision for me and my relationship with God, and I have so much respect for anyone who can abstain from sex and save that form of intimacy for their spouse.
One more thing I want to touch on before wrapping this up, just because you have had sex before doesn’t mean you can’t still wait for marriage. God renews and forgives. If you make a mistake, our God will forgive you but you must be willing to first receive His forgiveness. We are all sinners and we all have things that we regret. Our God who made the universe out of nothing, can look at your past and transform your life into something beautiful. You cannot get your physical virginity back, but you can be born again spiritually, and that is the important part. For God cares less about your physical body than He does about your soul and your spiritual body. Spiritual rebirth is available to all who seek it and God welcomes you to seek it. Spiritual rebirth cannot destroy the mistakes of your past, but it does transform your past into something so beautiful. In short, once you have stopped having sex and have asked God for forgiveness, can you call yourself a virgin? You may not be a physical virgin anymore, but once you have asked God to be purified, you are a virgin in His eyes, and His is the only opinion you should worry about. Once you have been purified by Him, you are made new again. And lastly, this that I found while researching for this post:
To wrap up tonight’s post, all I want you to take from this is that you should not be embarrassed of your promise to yourself, to God, and to your future spouse. You also should know that you are not alone in this choice, there are others like you. I also want you to know that through God, you can be born again. I want to now close out this post with a few bible verses relating to the topic tonight. Thank you for spending a little bit of your night, or day, with me. God bless.
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, and you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus by the Spirit of our God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-11
“Finally, then, brothers, we ask and urge you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God, just as you are doing, that you do so more and more. For you know what instructions we gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; …” 1 Thessalonians 4:1-18
“Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinthians 7:1-40
“God wants you to be holy and to stay away from sexual sins. He wants each of you to learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable … God called us to be holy and does not want us to live in sin.” 1 Thessalonians 4:3, 4, 7