A Letter to My Future Husband

Dear Future Husband,

Oh my goodness… I am so excited to marry you. I so look forward to spending as much time with you as I can, but I know that we will have an eternal life together in Heaven. I am so head-over-heels in love with you already and I don’t even know who you are. I hope you know that I am faithfully praying for you every day of my life. I pray that you are a God fearing man with a patient and kind soul and a heart set on things above. “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.” Colossians 3:1

I know that God is preparing you for me in the same way He is preparing me for you and let me tell you, He is working some wonders on my heart and I cannot wait to fall in love with the man that He has made you. I cannot wait to be silly with you and sing our favorite songs as loud as we can in the car on the way to the grocery store. I cannot wait to study the bible with you and talk about God until its 2 am and both of our hearts are overflowing with love for our Heavenly Father. I look forward to worshiping with you and watching our faith grow. I look forward to the good and the bad, the ups and the downs, the difficult times and the best of times, and I look forward to this because these will be times I will have spent with you.

I pray that you know that there is no relationship without a relationship with God first. I tris
pray that you know that the closer we are to God, the closer we are a couple. (I also hope you love this rough drawing I did on my computer to illustrate my thoughts… haha) I pray that our relationship brings the both of us closer to God. I know that because you are a man of God, that you will respect me. You will lead me closer to God and not try to control or pressure me. You will know that I was made for you by our Creator and that you will pray for me and pray with me.

I have no earthly idea when we will both be ready for this beautiful next chapter of each of our lives, but I have no doubts that God is preparing both of us for this love that neither of us would have ever expected. I love you, I love you, I love you. I am so excited for the day we are finally together, for that day will begin the rest of our lives. I want as much time with you as possible, but keep reminding myself not to rush God. His perfect timing will be soon enough. I’m always praying for you. I love you.

Love,

Your Future Wife

 

Seek your happiness in the Lord, and He will give you your heart’s desire. Psalm 37:4

 

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A Letter to My Future Husband

To Anyone Waiting for Marriage

So first off, I want to thank all who voted in my poll on my twitter to help me to decide which blog post to write first! I love making content that I know people want to read, so this is definitely an easy way to do that and I will be doing more polls like that in the future, so be sure to follow my twitter if you aren’t already!!

Secondly, I want to say that I just came in from seeing a movie (The Bye Bye Man – very scary btw) with friends and I sat down on my bed and honestly just wanted to sit and play The Sims 4, even though I felt guilty for not being totally eager to write this post (I am excited to share this, don’t get me wrong, but I am pooped) and then I noticed that my game needed to be updated and I’d be without the game for at least a couple hours while it updated. So… God, thank you for intervening and making it to where I would write this post tonight and not play Sims… haha. God definitely has a sense of humor.

So to start of this post, I should give you a preface. Do you remember in middle school when they hired speakers to come speak to the school about abstinence and we all signed a pledge to abstain from sex until marriage? I assume this is a thing that all school districts do. Well of course we all signed the pledge and mostly forgot about it, I know I did. For a while, I was unsure about waiting for marriage. I knew I wanted my first time to be with someone that I loved, but I wasn’t totally sold on waiting for marriage. But as my faith grew, which is another story in itself (that story will be up soon), I leaned more and more toward saving sex for marriage. But when I made this promise to myself and God, I noticed that I don’t really know or even know of anyone else who shares that same value with me or at least know of anyone who speaks out about waiting for marriage. I guess in today’s standards it’s not considered “cool”. But I thought it would be a good thing to write this post because when I was undecided and even now when I’m 100% sure, I needed/wanted someone else who wasn’t afraid to speak out and say “Hey, I’m waiting for my husband/wife too! It’s totally cool and you’re not alone.” and that’s what I want this post to be. I want you to know that you are not alone, there are more people waiting than you think, and that you shouldn’t be embarrassed about your decision. I know that waiting is hard and you will probably lose some people because of this choice, but I also know that waiting for your spouse will be so worth it.

I don’t mean I look down upon anyone who doesn’t share this value with me at all. I was even born out of wedlock and my parents didn’t get married until I was four years old. But I know that this is the right decision for me and my relationship with God, and I have so much respect for anyone who can abstain from sex and save that form of intimacy for their spouse.

One more thing I want to touch on before wrapping this up, just because you have had sex before doesn’t mean you can’t still wait for marriage. God renews and forgives. If you make a mistake, our God will forgive you but you must be willing to first receive His forgiveness. We are all sinners and we all have things that we regret. Our God who made the universe out of nothing, can look at your past and transform your life into something beautiful. You cannot get your physical virginity back, but you can be born again spiritually, and that is the important part. For God cares less about your physical body than He does about your soul and your spiritual body. Spiritual rebirth is available to all who seek it and God welcomes you to seek it. Spiritual rebirth cannot destroy the mistakes of your past, but it does transform your past into something so beautiful. In short, once you have stopped having sex and have asked God for forgiveness, can you call yourself a virgin? You may not be a physical virgin anymore, but once you have asked God to be purified, you are a virgin in His eyes, and His is the only opinion you should worry about. Once you have been purified by Him, you are made new again. And lastly, this that I found while researching for this post:

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To wrap up tonight’s post, all I want you to take from this is that you should not be embarrassed of your promise to yourself, to God, and to your future spouse. You also should know that you are not alone in this choice, there are others like you. I also want you to know that through God, you can be born again. I want to now close out this post with a few bible verses relating to the topic tonight. Thank you for spending a little bit of your night, or day, with me. God bless.

 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, and you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus by the Spirit of our God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

“Finally, then, brothers, we ask and urge you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God, just as you are doing, that you do so more and more. For you know what instructions we gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; …” 1 Thessalonians 4:1-18

“Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinthians 7:1-40

“God wants you to be holy and to stay away from sexual sins. He wants each of you to learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable … God called us to be holy and does not want us to live in sin.”  1 Thessalonians 4:3, 4, 7

 

To Anyone Waiting for Marriage

Some of God’s Greatest Gifts Are Unanswered Prayers

Jesus replied, “You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.” John 13:7

I have spent much of my life praying for things that never happened for me. Instead of this causing bitterness to form in my heart, I praise God for not giving me what I had prayed for in the past. For if God have given me the things I was praying on, I would not be who or where I am today. I would not be meeting the people I am or doing the things I’m doing.

I am so thankful to God for bringing me through tough situations in my past to lead me right to where I am right now. I love the young woman I have become, and love her even more so because I fought to become her. I know for a fact that even though somethings that we pray for seem perfect at the moment, our God knows exactly what is best. If we think something is great, He knows that something later will be perfect! We must remember to always wait for our perfect!

For Song of Solomon 8:4 says “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.” Do you remember in The Wizard of Oz when Dorothy, the lion, the scarecrow, and the tin man were running toward the Emerald City through the poppy seeds and then Dorothy fell asleep? This is what I imagine when people get in relationships outside of God’s timing. If in this metaphor, the Emerald City symbolizes our true, God-intended love story, then Dorothy and her friends were RUNNING toward the love story, being careless on the way there. The field of poppy flowers are a symbol for an out of season relationship – toxic and harmful. The Wicked Witch (who symbolizes the devil in our metaphor) puts the poppies in our way to tempt us, therefore trying to throw us off of our path that God has perfectly paved for us. It was important for Dorothy, as it is important for us, to surround ourselves with good, Godly friends, who would help us out of Satan’s schemes when they see us struggling, similar to how the Tin Man and the Scarecrow yelled “Help!” and the Good Witch made it snow, to wake up the lion and Dorothy. Through this metaphor, I hope we can learn not to rush into things because God knows where we are going and exactly when we will get there.

Some of God’s Greatest Gifts Are Unanswered Prayers

Your Worth

 

ruby-transpShe is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. Proverbs 3:15

When we are little girls, we dream of “Prince Charming” and we look and look for him, and somehow along the way, our expectations for this man decreases until we have little to no expectations at all. Tonight I pray that we, as young women, do not forget that Prince Charming we had always dreamed of. It is amazing to know that God has a man out there for us, and that that man is out there, living his life and waiting for us just as we are waiting for him! This man was created especially for us and this man will respect and love us more than we can even imagine! I cannot wait for that man to join me in my journey. I have prayed for the man God has intended for me everyday since I was a little girl and I know that every passing day is a day closer to getting to spend my life with him! We cannot get used to the way some boys treat women in our world and confuse boys asking for pictures and rating us high out of a scale from 1-10 for love. That is a crooked way of thinking. God has our Prince Charming here! You must always remember to be patient with God’s timing! God is preparing your heart and your Prince Charming’s heart right now for your fairy tale romance and it will begin as soon as you both are ready!I pray that young women all over know that they are worth more than what boys think of them. We should be waiting for a man of God, not a boy of the week. Jesus died on the cross so that we could know how priceless we are. He died on the cross to show us that we are worth more than the names boys call us, the ratings they give us. He died to tell us that we are beautiful and worthy of love! “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.” Song of Solomon 4:7 Let us, as young women, refuse to believe the rude things that boys call us or say about us and not to forget to believe that Jesus died for us! He died so that we could live and love and know that our Father has a plan for our lives! “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” Mark 11:24

I also pray that we do not lose that belief in love because of damage that a past relationship has done to our hearts. I believe in love because I believe in GOD! “We love because He first loved us.” 1 John 4:19 We cannot allow ourselves to harbor hatred in our hearts and not allow ourselves to love fully again. Bad people and bad situations are put in our lives to teach us lessons so that we can learn from them, not to ruin our lives!! “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” Romans 8:18 In Jeremiah 29:11, God tells us that He has a plan for us, plans to give us a hope and a future and we must never forget that! We must always trust God’s plans for us and remember that we do not always know what is best for us!!!! For in John 13:7, Jesus says “You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.”

 

Do not forget to seek your Prince Charming.

Your Worth

Salt & Light

You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how shall it be made salty? It is from then on good for nothing but to be thrown out and to be trampled underfoot by men. You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do men light a candle and put it under a basket, but on a candlestick. And it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your Father who is in heaven. Matthew 5:13-16

“You are the salt of the earth.”

Jesus calls His followers salt of the earth. Salt stops decay and corruption and that is part of our job as Christians: to stop decay and corruption in our world. Salt also stimulates thirst. We must be salt in the way to stimulate thirst in Christ. I pray that I can help to stop decay and corruption in our dying world. I also pray that I am making others thirsty for God and bringing God’s children to Him.

We must stop and reflect. Ask yourself: “Am I doing these things? Am I stopping corruption in this world? Do I make others thirsty for God?” If you cannot answer and easy “Yes” to those three questions, then you have more work to do. I, for instance, try my very best to do these things, but I still cannot give a definite “yes” to those questions. These are things we should be working on throughout our entire lives. We should never be satisfied with what we do on Earth, always do more for your God.

“You are the light of the world.”

In the same way that we the salt, we must also be the light. We must always strive to show our light to others and have them see our good deeds and then they will want to join us in glorifying God. We want these people without God in their lives to see out light, and follow that light to our Father. We must allow our light to lead the way. I pray that I always will do my very best to be light of the world. I pray that my light shines so bright that people see it easily and follow it to our Lord. I also pray that in all things I do, I glorify God.

Recap: Our Lord and Savior both call on Their followers to make the world a better place and to bring more of God’s children to Him. This is our job description as Christians. We must be eager to do this work for our Father. We should be on fire for God and make it our goal each day to show someone our light and to create thirst in their body for Christianity.

 

Salt & Light

Praying For Your Future Spouse

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:22-24

I mention the importance of praying for your future spouse a lot on my blog, but today I want to discuss how I like to pray for my future husband. I like to use God’s word, inspiring all of my prayers by bible verses. Of course I pray for my future husband’s well-being, but beyond that I pray this:

  • He will love and cherish me, just as God loves the church. (Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her. Ephesians 5:25)
  • He will keep goodness in his heart and turn away from sin. (Let love be without hypocrisy. Hate what is evil. Cleave to what is good. Romans 12:9)
  • He will remain strong in his faith and pray without ceasing. (Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night. He will be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth its fruit in its season; its leaf will not wither, and whatever he does will prosper. Psalm 1:1-3)
  • He will love our Lord with a full heart, with his whole soul, and with his entire strength. (You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength. This is the first commandment. Mark 12:30)
  • He will be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger. ( Therefore, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. James 1:19)
  • The Lord will protect him in all ways: physically, mentally, and most of all – spiritually. (The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in Him, and I was helped; therefore my heart rejoices, and with my song I will thank Him. The Lord is the strength of His people, and He is the saving strength of His anointed. Save Your people, and bless Your inheritance; feed them and lift them up forever. Psalm 28:7-9But the Lord is faithful, who will establish you and guard you from the evil one. 2 Thessalonians 3:3)
  • God will guide him throughout life and lead him to where he is supposed to be. (I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;  I will counsel you with my eye on you. Psalm 32:8)
  • Our Lord will bring him to other godly men and will build strong friendships with them. (Iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. Proverbs 27:17)
  • He will have a heart on fire for Jesus. (Set your affection on things above, not on things on earth. Colossians 3:2)
  • He will be a God-fearing man, he will walk in wisdom and righteousness. (The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 1:7The fear of the Lord is the instruction of wisdom, and before honor is humility. Proverbs 15:33)
  • He will have humility and a teachable spirit. (All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for instruction in righteousness 2 Timothy 3:16)

I cannot express how important these types of prayers are to me. God is preparing our hearts for our future spouses and I pray that He is taking care of and watching over the man of my dreams, wherever he may be.

 

Praying For Your Future Spouse

Expansion on “Good Things Come to Those Who Wait”

But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. Romans 8:25

After thinking more on last night’s post, I realized I had a lot more to say pertaining to the same idea. So here is my expansion on last night’s thoughts.

I touched on waiting for the right person that God has made for us, but, ladies, how do we know if this man is the one that our Lord has set out for us or just some guy?

  1. He will make it known that he has taken an interest in pursuing you. You should never wonder how he feels about you.
  2. He will call you first. You should not have to chase him.
  3. He will be straight-forward. He will not say “lets hang out” and definitely will not text you “wyd” at 11:30 at night. He will ask you on a date and he will call it a date.
  4. He will not shy away from talking about God. He will encourage even more Godly conversations.
  5. He knows that he is not a perfect Christian, but that he is a sinner saved by grace.
  6. He will respect your body and will not convince or make an attempt to convince you to sin.

Obviously, the man that God has intended for me is not a part of my life yet, but I firmly believe that when I begin a relationship with this man, I will know. This man will respect my boundaries and have his own, he will pray for me like I will pray for him (and have been praying for him), he will encourage building our faith together as our relationship grows, and more.

I am a believer that if you pray for it, God is working on it! I have been praying since I was 13 for a Godly husband in my future and praying that God prepares my heart and my soul for this man when the time comes. This may seem crazy, but I do have a feeling that that time is coming soon and I look so forward to it!

Remember: GOOD THINGS TAKE TIME

Expansion on “Good Things Come to Those Who Wait”