A Letter to My Future Husband

Dear Future Husband,

Oh my goodness… I am so excited to marry you. I so look forward to spending as much time with you as I can, but I know that we will have an eternal life together in Heaven. I am so head-over-heels in love with you already and I don’t even know who you are. I hope you know that I am faithfully praying for you every day of my life. I pray that you are a God fearing man with a patient and kind soul and a heart set on things above. “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.” Colossians 3:1

I know that God is preparing you for me in the same way He is preparing me for you and let me tell you, He is working some wonders on my heart and I cannot wait to fall in love with the man that He has made you. I cannot wait to be silly with you and sing our favorite songs as loud as we can in the car on the way to the grocery store. I cannot wait to study the bible with you and talk about God until its 2 am and both of our hearts are overflowing with love for our Heavenly Father. I look forward to worshiping with you and watching our faith grow. I look forward to the good and the bad, the ups and the downs, the difficult times and the best of times, and I look forward to this because these will be times I will have spent with you.

I pray that you know that there is no relationship without a relationship with God first. I tris
pray that you know that the closer we are to God, the closer we are a couple. (I also hope you love this rough drawing I did on my computer to illustrate my thoughts… haha) I pray that our relationship brings the both of us closer to God. I know that because you are a man of God, that you will respect me. You will lead me closer to God and not try to control or pressure me. You will know that I was made for you by our Creator and that you will pray for me and pray with me.

I have no earthly idea when we will both be ready for this beautiful next chapter of each of our lives, but I have no doubts that God is preparing both of us for this love that neither of us would have ever expected. I love you, I love you, I love you. I am so excited for the day we are finally together, for that day will begin the rest of our lives. I want as much time with you as possible, but keep reminding myself not to rush God. His perfect timing will be soon enough. I’m always praying for you. I love you.

Love,

Your Future Wife

 

Seek your happiness in the Lord, and He will give you your heart’s desire. Psalm 37:4

 

A Letter to My Future Husband

To Anyone Waiting for Marriage

So first off, I want to thank all who voted in my poll on my twitter to help me to decide which blog post to write first! I love making content that I know people want to read, so this is definitely an easy way to do that and I will be doing more polls like that in the future, so be sure to follow my twitter if you aren’t already!!

Secondly, I want to say that I just came in from seeing a movie (The Bye Bye Man – very scary btw) with friends and I sat down on my bed and honestly just wanted to sit and play The Sims 4, even though I felt guilty for not being totally eager to write this post (I am excited to share this, don’t get me wrong, but I am pooped) and then I noticed that my game needed to be updated and I’d be without the game for at least a couple hours while it updated. So… God, thank you for intervening and making it to where I would write this post tonight and not play Sims… haha. God definitely has a sense of humor.

So to start of this post, I should give you a preface. Do you remember in middle school when they hired speakers to come speak to the school about abstinence and we all signed a pledge to abstain from sex until marriage? I assume this is a thing that all school districts do. Well of course we all signed the pledge and mostly forgot about it, I know I did. For a while, I was unsure about waiting for marriage. I knew I wanted my first time to be with someone that I loved, but I wasn’t totally sold on waiting for marriage. But as my faith grew, which is another story in itself (that story will be up soon), I leaned more and more toward saving sex for marriage. But when I made this promise to myself and God, I noticed that I don’t really know or even know of anyone else who shares that same value with me or at least know of anyone who speaks out about waiting for marriage. I guess in today’s standards it’s not considered “cool”. But I thought it would be a good thing to write this post because when I was undecided and even now when I’m 100% sure, I needed/wanted someone else who wasn’t afraid to speak out and say “Hey, I’m waiting for my husband/wife too! It’s totally cool and you’re not alone.” and that’s what I want this post to be. I want you to know that you are not alone, there are more people waiting than you think, and that you shouldn’t be embarrassed about your decision. I know that waiting is hard and you will probably lose some people because of this choice, but I also know that waiting for your spouse will be so worth it.

I don’t mean I look down upon anyone who doesn’t share this value with me at all. I was even born out of wedlock and my parents didn’t get married until I was four years old. But I know that this is the right decision for me and my relationship with God, and I have so much respect for anyone who can abstain from sex and save that form of intimacy for their spouse.

One more thing I want to touch on before wrapping this up, just because you have had sex before doesn’t mean you can’t still wait for marriage. God renews and forgives. If you make a mistake, our God will forgive you but you must be willing to first receive His forgiveness. We are all sinners and we all have things that we regret. Our God who made the universe out of nothing, can look at your past and transform your life into something beautiful. You cannot get your physical virginity back, but you can be born again spiritually, and that is the important part. For God cares less about your physical body than He does about your soul and your spiritual body. Spiritual rebirth is available to all who seek it and God welcomes you to seek it. Spiritual rebirth cannot destroy the mistakes of your past, but it does transform your past into something so beautiful. In short, once you have stopped having sex and have asked God for forgiveness, can you call yourself a virgin? You may not be a physical virgin anymore, but once you have asked God to be purified, you are a virgin in His eyes, and His is the only opinion you should worry about. Once you have been purified by Him, you are made new again. And lastly, this that I found while researching for this post:

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To wrap up tonight’s post, all I want you to take from this is that you should not be embarrassed of your promise to yourself, to God, and to your future spouse. You also should know that you are not alone in this choice, there are others like you. I also want you to know that through God, you can be born again. I want to now close out this post with a few bible verses relating to the topic tonight. Thank you for spending a little bit of your night, or day, with me. God bless.

 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, and you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus by the Spirit of our God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

“Finally, then, brothers, we ask and urge you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God, just as you are doing, that you do so more and more. For you know what instructions we gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; …” 1 Thessalonians 4:1-18

“Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinthians 7:1-40

“God wants you to be holy and to stay away from sexual sins. He wants each of you to learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable … God called us to be holy and does not want us to live in sin.”  1 Thessalonians 4:3, 4, 7

 

To Anyone Waiting for Marriage

New Years Resolutions for 2017

Haha… I have literally never made a new years resolution unless you count the one my third grade teacher made me make – it was to “be nicer to people”. Anyway, I’ve been wanting to have one, I just never could think of anything… so I decided to make a list of a few resolutions that aren’t very demanding and that way, I have a better chance of making at least one of them come true… lol.

  1. Pray every night before bed. I think I’ll be pretty good with this one because I’ve successfully done this for like the past two months. So hopefully, if I can’t do the others on this list, at least I will have this one?
  2. Journal everyday. I definitely need to get better at this. Like way better. When I reread my journals, I see like five consistent days and then like a two month gap…no really… I wish I was exaggerating.
  3. Brush my hair more. Oh man… my hairbrush and I have a rocky relationship. It’s been this way for as long as I can remember… when I was younger, I swear I would have rather had hair like a feral child than let my mom brush my hair. Sometimes, I still think that way, but most of the time I just want to shave my head and wear wigs. So in short, I need to brush my hair more.
  4. Do not lose my current sunglasses. I’m so terrible at losing sunglasses and I used to always get my sunglasses at Forever 21 (They’re only $5.90… I know this because I’ve re-bought so many pairs after losing them) but for Christmas, I got my first pair of sunglasses that cost more than $15. (These are them, if you wanna get a pair.) So basically, I don’t wanna lose these and I can’t because if I do, my mom will probably kill me.
  5. Finally get a tattoo. I’ve been wanting the same tattoo for so long right now and I told myself that I would get the tattoo on my 18th birthday and now it’s been more than four months and I still don’t have it. Sigh.
  6. I would say that I want to read more books, but by now, I feel like I should tell y’all that the only books I thoroughly enjoy are… wait for it… Diary of a Wimpy Kid… I know… I know…
  7. Drink more water. I mean, I guess this is pretty self-explanatory.
  8. Do a whole lot more studying. Oh man… I have never been particularly good at studying. In high school, I would leave my backpack in my car when I got home and probably studied a handful of times and I did pretty well in school. As a result of this, I never learned how to properly study and in college, I’m trying my best to kick those old study habits. It’s hard… like really hard.
  9. Let go & let God. This could be a whole blog post in itself, but in short, I’m a control freak and I need to get better at giving my problems to God because beautiful things happen when you hand your worries to God.

So… I guess that’s it. I will definitely revisit this list in a year and see how many of these I can even accomplish. Comment some of your 2017 resolutions below, I’d love to hear them! Cheers to a great year! Happy new year, guys!

New Years Resolutions for 2017

Some of God’s Greatest Gifts Are Unanswered Prayers

Jesus replied, “You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.” John 13:7

I have spent much of my life praying for things that never happened for me. Instead of this causing bitterness to form in my heart, I praise God for not giving me what I had prayed for in the past. For if God have given me the things I was praying on, I would not be who or where I am today. I would not be meeting the people I am or doing the things I’m doing.

I am so thankful to God for bringing me through tough situations in my past to lead me right to where I am right now. I love the young woman I have become, and love her even more so because I fought to become her. I know for a fact that even though somethings that we pray for seem perfect at the moment, our God knows exactly what is best. If we think something is great, He knows that something later will be perfect! We must remember to always wait for our perfect!

For Song of Solomon 8:4 says “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.” Do you remember in The Wizard of Oz when Dorothy, the lion, the scarecrow, and the tin man were running toward the Emerald City through the poppy seeds and then Dorothy fell asleep? This is what I imagine when people get in relationships outside of God’s timing. If in this metaphor, the Emerald City symbolizes our true, God-intended love story, then Dorothy and her friends were RUNNING toward the love story, being careless on the way there. The field of poppy flowers are a symbol for an out of season relationship – toxic and harmful. The Wicked Witch (who symbolizes the devil in our metaphor) puts the poppies in our way to tempt us, therefore trying to throw us off of our path that God has perfectly paved for us. It was important for Dorothy, as it is important for us, to surround ourselves with good, Godly friends, who would help us out of Satan’s schemes when they see us struggling, similar to how the Tin Man and the Scarecrow yelled “Help!” and the Good Witch made it snow, to wake up the lion and Dorothy. Through this metaphor, I hope we can learn not to rush into things because God knows where we are going and exactly when we will get there.

Some of God’s Greatest Gifts Are Unanswered Prayers

Your Worth

 

ruby-transpShe is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. Proverbs 3:15

When we are little girls, we dream of “Prince Charming” and we look and look for him, and somehow along the way, our expectations for this man decreases until we have little to no expectations at all. Tonight I pray that we, as young women, do not forget that Prince Charming we had always dreamed of. It is amazing to know that God has a man out there for us, and that that man is out there, living his life and waiting for us just as we are waiting for him! This man was created especially for us and this man will respect and love us more than we can even imagine! I cannot wait for that man to join me in my journey. I have prayed for the man God has intended for me everyday since I was a little girl and I know that every passing day is a day closer to getting to spend my life with him! We cannot get used to the way some boys treat women in our world and confuse boys asking for pictures and rating us high out of a scale from 1-10 for love. That is a crooked way of thinking. God has our Prince Charming here! You must always remember to be patient with God’s timing! God is preparing your heart and your Prince Charming’s heart right now for your fairy tale romance and it will begin as soon as you both are ready!I pray that young women all over know that they are worth more than what boys think of them. We should be waiting for a man of God, not a boy of the week. Jesus died on the cross so that we could know how priceless we are. He died on the cross to show us that we are worth more than the names boys call us, the ratings they give us. He died to tell us that we are beautiful and worthy of love! “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.” Song of Solomon 4:7 Let us, as young women, refuse to believe the rude things that boys call us or say about us and not to forget to believe that Jesus died for us! He died so that we could live and love and know that our Father has a plan for our lives! “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” Mark 11:24

I also pray that we do not lose that belief in love because of damage that a past relationship has done to our hearts. I believe in love because I believe in GOD! “We love because He first loved us.” 1 John 4:19 We cannot allow ourselves to harbor hatred in our hearts and not allow ourselves to love fully again. Bad people and bad situations are put in our lives to teach us lessons so that we can learn from them, not to ruin our lives!! “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.” Romans 8:18 In Jeremiah 29:11, God tells us that He has a plan for us, plans to give us a hope and a future and we must never forget that! We must always trust God’s plans for us and remember that we do not always know what is best for us!!!! For in John 13:7, Jesus says “You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.”

 

Do not forget to seek your Prince Charming.

Your Worth

My Current Skincare Routine

I finally started caring about skincare right around my eighteenth birthday. (I’m finally an adult!) After a few months of trial and error, I finally found a routine that I like.

Side note: Before I get started I want to let you know that I have sensitive, very dry, & acne prone skin that scars easy too. Also note that all of the products I use are super affordable and work fabulously – promise.

  1. I always wash my face at night, so I first start out with a makeup wipe. I use this kind – its the Walmart brand but its cheap,comes in a bigger pack, and they do the job. PRICE: $3.48Image result for walmart makeup wipes
  2. My next step is cleanser. I use this one because it gets any remaining makeup off super easy and quick. A little goes a long way with this stuff and it has cleaned my pores so nicely!                                                                                                                                          PRICE: $5.99
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  3. Step three is my second cleanser – lol I know, right? But I do love this stuff, it clears all my break outs and it smells good too!                                                                                         PRICE: $6.29Image result for grapefruit acne cleanser
  4. Next, I use this AMAZING toner from L’Oréal. This stuff works wonders by softening, brightening, cleaning, and gently exfoliating. I use a cotton pad and dab on a bit of this product once and its plenty! Not to mention, its alcohol-free which means it won’t and does not dry out my skin!                                                                                            PRICE: $5.49
  5. I usually let my toner sink into my skin for a few minutes, so at this point I check my Twitter or Instagram and then move onto the next step: My favorite – Exfoliating. As I mentioned before, I have very dry skin and exfoliating really get all of the flaky, dead skin off and leaves my skin feeling extra smooth. Also note that a little goes a looong way with this stuff!                                                                                                      PRICE: $8.51Image result for clearasil ultra rapid action scrub
  6. In, my opinion, this next product is the most effective and I only use it every other night. I use generous amounts of this mask and leave it on for the full twenty minutes. (Sometimes longer because I get too comfortable in my chair…haha)               PRICE: $8.73Image result for Clearasil Ultra Acne + Marks Acne Treatment Face Wash and Mask
  7. Finally we have reached the end! My final step is washing of this mask and moisturizing! I bought this jar of moisturizer more than a year ago and I have barely made a dent and I use it twice a day! This stuff works wonders for dry skin!                       PRICE: $10.66Image result for cetaphil moisturizing creamAnd thats all, folks! I swear by this routine. After having troubled skin for quite some time and being a lover of lots and lots of makeup, this routine is awesome and super affordable! If you try some of these products out, I’d love to know about it so tweet me or DM me and let me know how you like them!

 

My Current Skincare Routine

40 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me

  1. Wash your face! This may sound so obvious but I didn’t really start taking care of my skin until the summer after I graduated high school and I regret not starting a better routine sooner.
  2. Pray about everything, and don’t forget to thank God for answering your prayers!! This is very important & a very BIG deal.
  3. Also that just because you pray for something, no matter how good it sounds to you at the moment, God decides in the end whether that is something that you need right now. God knows what we need in our life far better than we ever could.
  4. Don’t be a makeup snob and only use high-end products. There are fabulous drug store products at a fraction of the price.
  5. Don’t splurge and spend all of your graduation money on stupid stuff!!!!! Please for the love of GOD!!!!!
  6. If someone wants to be in your life, you will know. If you find yourself questioning what you mean to someone, stop immediately. You are worth more than that.
  7. Don’t talk to boys who only text you late at night.
  8. Don’t kill yourself for a grade. Once you’re out of high school, no one cares what your graduating rank or GPA was.
  9. Pick a major that makes you happy! Please don’t make a big life decision based on only salary – even though that definitely helps.
  10. Please know that you are important, smart, and beautiful and do not depend on a boy to tell you those things before you begin to believe them.
  11. Write more. Keep a journal. Write when you’re sad, write when you’re happy, write when you’re excited or mad. It’s more fun than you know to reread old journal entries.
  12. If you think someone looks nice, tell them. Make this a habit.
  13. Actually, if you have any positive thought, say it out loud. “I like those shoes!” or “You smell so good!” will make someone happy in two seconds. Just tell them.
  14. Say thank you for even the tiniest of things.
  15. Clothes are clothes and no one really cares or can even tell if you spent $50 or $5 on a shirt.
  16. Let go & let God. He knows exactly where He’s taking you and will get you there right on time.
  17. Study more. But if I’m being honest, cramming works just as well as studying a little each day, for me at least.
  18. You don’t have to go to church to be a good Christian. Go because you enjoy it.
  19. A broken heart is nothing that a little prayer can’t fix.
  20. Don’t drop your friends for a boy. You will need those friends when he starts acting like an idiot.
  21. If your boyfriend doesn’t like your friends, please don’t keep him around.
  22. Don’t stay friends with someone just because you see them everyday.
  23. Talk to God often. When you’re alone is the perfect time to just stop everything and talk to Him. He loves to hear from His children.
  24. Spend more time with your grandparents.
  25. Don’t be so hung up on what people think about you. It’s not a big deal, I promise. If you live your life to please others and not yourself, you will be so exhausted.
  26. The majority of people are inherently good. Don’t be so afraid to talk to people.
  27. Pray for the people around you. Even if you don’t think they’re struggling with anything, just do it. Pray for your parents, your siblings, your friends, etc.
  28. Get a good, protective phone case. Sure the thin cases are cute but a cracked screen is definitely not.
  29. Be nice to your teachers. They’re doing their best too.
  30. Sit in the front of classes that you know you’re going to struggle in.
  31. Be mindful of people’s feelings when you speak to them.
  32. The right person will come when you’re ready.
  33. Everyone messes up sometimes. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
  34. Take pictures of everything. Well maybe not everything but a lot of things.
  35. It’s okay to need help sometimes.
  36. You’re not “too cool” for anything.
  37. Don’t be afraid to tell someone what’s bothering you. Also, if someone pisses you off, let them now. Talk about problems. Don’t sweep them under the rug.
  38. Help your mom out around the house. Before she asks you to.
  39. Whatever you’re freaking out about, it’s probably not as big a deal as you think it is.
  40. Be more patient.
40 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me