Many aspects go into being a woman of God. It is difficult to say without being considered “regressive” or even offensive, but women were simply created by God to be different than men. I do not mean to say that women cannot to what men do and be successful, but I am saying that women and men both have different strengths in general, and instead of pushing these differences away to become “equal” to men, we should also remember to celebrate what makes us different from men.
Genesis 2:18 says “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make him a helper suitable for him.”” We are called to be helpers, to aid the people around us and especially the people we love. Titus 2:4-5 says “Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” We, as women, are called to do these things because we were created by God for these specific jobs.
I can see how this is coming off a bit anti-feminist, and that is not my intention. Men are perfectly capable of doing work that is stereotypical of a woman, and vise versa. I am really just relaying the message. Many people may disagree with what I’m saying here, but I don’t think that there is anything wrong with celebrating what makes women different from men. We are designed to do these things, and that shouldn’t be looked down upon or pitied.
1 Peter 3:3-5 states “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” If it says, so blatantly, that a gentle and quiet spirit is of great worth to God, then why is it so rare to celebrate such things today? Women who are gentle and quiet are told to “speak up” or be more “assertive”, as I have been told before as well.
The bible also calls us, including men, to be pure. I think we can all gather what “pure” means in these terms. 1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us to “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” and Titus 2:5 calls young women “to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” I’ve spoken on purity before, but it only makes sense to mention the topic again in this post as well. I find it so odd that people have strayed so far from what really used to be the norm – waiting for sex until marriage. In today’s society, anyone who has chosen abstinence is considered a “prude” but personally, I would rather be thought of as a prude by people here on Earth than to be thought of as promiscuous by God. We must ask ourselves – whose opinion really matters here? This brings me to another point mentioned in Titus 2:5, we, as young women, are to be taught to be “self-controlled” this goes along with the purity. We, women AND MEN, should practice self-control through many trials in our lives and one way to do that is abstinence.
In closing, the Bible gives us women some pretty specific and easy to follow guidelines – if you will – on how to be a woman worthy of God. Proverbs 31 shows us the traits of a worthy woman:
“An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. She looks for wool and flax and works with her hands in delight. She is like merchant ships; she brings her food from afar. She rises also while it is still night and gives food to her household and portions to her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She senses that her gain is good; her lamp does not go out at night. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hands grasp the spindle. She extends her hand to the poor, and she stretches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household are clothed with scarlet. She makes coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies belts to the tradesmen. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying “Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all.” Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her the product of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.”
It just seems silly to me that any woman who knows of this passage could strive to be any less than a Proverbs 31 woman. Before closing, I want to write briefly about each point that is in bold in the above text.
- For her worth is far above jewels. A woman who is “excellent” as mentioned in the text, is worth more to her husband than any riches or any jewels. A woman who meets all criteria of a Proverbs 31 woman is an excellent wife in God’s eyes.
- She extends her hand to the poor, and she stretches out her hands to the needy. This is something that we all, men and women, strive to be more like. Pretty self-explanatory, just help out more, basically. Look for ways you can help the less fortunate around you. We all could stand to do more of this.
- Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. Everyone and their mother loves this part. This verse calls us, as women, to be strong, to have dignity and self-respect, and to look to the future with happiness because we trust in God wholeheartedly.
- She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. This very well might be my favorite little part from this whole section. We should use our wisdom before opening our mouths (I interpret this as thinking before you speak, that sort of thing). It goes on to say “teaching of kindness is on her tongue” I take this to mean that whatever is coming out of our mouths should teach kindness in one way or another. This is something that we all struggle with, and we all should work towards letting only kind words cross our lips. Think Thumper from “Bambi”
- Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. We should not be so concerned about our physical appearances, but more concerned with the relationship that we have with God. A woman who does these things shall be praised.
That’s all I got this week, y’all. Its long and wordy, but I hope that it was worth the time to read. Thank you so much for spending a little bit of your day, or night, with me.